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Somewhere along the way, many of us were praised for needing less and learned the imprinting of overriding needs. This could have looked like asking for less than you needed—less attention, reassurance, help-seeking or accepting support, becoming more fixed, rather than flexible and eventually, perhaps, to take up less emotional room as a means of “convenience.” The great Gloria Steinem said, “Once we give up searching for approval, we often find it easier to earn respect.” P

Attachment is not simply about how we love – it’s about our patterns and nervous system blueprints regarding what love feels like. Long before we had full language, before we could explain what we needed, before we could name loneliness, fear, longing, disappointment, or relief, the nervous system was already listening for cues to map out what safety, consistency and trust feels like and how much vulnerability, intimacy and integrated honesty can be trusted to be received s

“Do not silence yourself for someone else’s dysregulation.” – FKA Twigs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WaOMNB0xYMo&t=249s One of the most painful realities many survivors of domestic violence encounter is that trauma often must be explained in settings that do not fully understand trauma, let alone know how to respond to it with sufficient care. By the time someone is trying to speak about what happened, they are rarely beginning from a place of calm reflection. They may be